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Borrowing Benefits

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October 1, 2007

I recently received this message from someone who had attended one of the Monday Tapping Circles. I asked her if I could share it with you and she said yes.


Hi Nancy – I wanted to write and give you an update!  Something really cool happened as a result of our tapping circle last time.  I didn’t even realize it until a couple days ago.   I wrote down 3 things on my yellow card. The third thing was I had this weird muscle spasm in my arm that had been there for about a week and it was making me CRAZY.  It kind of hurt, but mostly the muscle was just twitching all the time.  I had been using essential oils on it for a week with no success.  OK – so I didn’t do any work on that issue at all during our tapping circle, BUT – it is COMPLETELY gone!!  As of that night it left and has not returned.  Because it was gone I didn’t even think about it until a couple days ago when I said “wait – my muscle twitch is gone.”  How cool is that?!?!?

This is a phenomenon in EFT called Borrowing Benefits. Here is a description of how this happens and how you too can receive benefits by tapping along with others (some folks tap along with EFT videos on YouTube).

Borrowing Benefits-Gary Craig, EFT Founder

Stay with me on this one. This procedure has the potential to….
1. Allow many people to achieve substantial emotional freedom IN THEIR LIVING ROOMS without having to become an expert in the fine points of EFT.
2. Dramatically accelerate the deep (core issue) work that can be done in groups.

It’s not perfect. Not everyone will get dramatic results and often times people will need professional guidance to maximize the process. But, in my experience, most people should benefit in a big way. It’s also easy….very easy…to do. In fact, many people can get solid results without knowing a thing about EFT. I wish I had thought of this before.

While I will be developing the idea below with some personal experiences, let me state up front that it involves tapping along while someone else is undergoing EFT. Interestingly, if you keep your own issue “in the background” while tapping for someone, you will likely resolve your issue EVEN THOUGH YOU ARE TAPPING FOR SOMEONE ELSE’S PROBLEM. You will, in effect, be creating your own parallels and “Borrowing Benefits” from someone else.

Here’s how I came across the idea…
A few months ago I had the occasion to demonstrate EFT to a group of 15 newbies. I asked for a volunteer to work with me in front of the group and “Laura” agreed to explore a highly personal, very severe abusive issue from her childhood.

Interestingly, this diverse group had nothing in common with each other. They were strangers from all over the U.S. who had gathered together as part of a large conference to explore personal improvement. My demonstration was a small subset of this larger conference.

Since I didn’t have much time (about 30 minutes) and since I
wanted to give them as much personal exposure to the EFT procedures as possible, I thought I would try an experiment. I asked each of the audience members to tune into a specific event in their past that was still bothersome to them. I asked for the most intense one they could find and then had them rate the current intensity on a 0-10 point scale. They ranged from 7 to 10.

I then had each of them make a mental movie of this event and write down titles to their movies as well as their 0-10 intensity ratings. This whole process only took a few minutes and allowed everyone to “tune in” to an issue they could tap on.

Then, while working with Laura, I asked the audience to tap along with us AS THOUGH THEY WERE TAPPING FOR LAURA’S ISSUE. They were to say the exact same words and to tap in the exact same places JUST AS THOUGH THEY WERE LAURA. My speculation was that each person would make some headway on their own issue because I had primed them to have “in the background” awareness of it. I was hoping their systems would draw useful parallels from my session with Laura.

The results both puzzled and surprised me. After delving (for 20 minutes) into many aspects of Laura’s issue THAT WERE SEEMINGLY PERSONAL AND UNIQUE TO HER, we finally achieved emotional freedom on her specific event. As a test, I asked her to go outside the room where she could be by herself and literally try to get upset. When she came back in, she was all smiles and could not bring up any trace of her previous tears, anger, etc. We had successfully collapsed the charge on her intense issue–including all the aspects.

Out of curiosity, I asked each audience member to tune back into their original specific events. To my delight, all of them…and I mean ALL of them…reported 0’s and 1’s on their previously intense issues (remember–they were originally ranked from 7 to 10).

How could this be? After all, THEY WERE PRESUMABLY
digging into the nitty-gritty details of their own nasty event.
Nor were they using any customized language or specific detective work to uncover their own core issues. There were no apparent tears or anxious moments, either. They just sat there tapping along. Nonetheless, they all reported dramatic results. Their previous issues became non-events in minutes.


Then, about a month ago, I was giving a two day workshop at the Toronto Energy Psychology Conference where Marcia Platt agreed to work with me in front of 75 people on a business success issue. As an experiment, I asked the entire audience to pick out a specific event of their own. And, just like with the Laura example above, I asked them to TAP ALONG WITH MARCIA AS THOUGH THEY WERE MARCIA. There was no requirement that these events be business related–they could be on anything.

In typical fashion, Marcia and I quickly landed on a specific event with her father that was foundational (core) for her business issue. It had many aspects, of course, and I spent 20-30 minutes tapping on every piece I could find while, all the while, THE AUDIENCE MEMBERS TAPPED ALONG USING THE SAME TAPPING POINTS AND THE SAME LANGUAGE AS THOUGH THEY WERE MARCIA.

At the end, I asked how many noticed dramatic results on their individual issues and 70% of them raised their hands. This translates to almost 100% because 25-30% of the audience had been “tapped out” after a two day tapping workshop and chose not to tap along. Thus most of those participating reported dramatic results.

Fascinating, eh! I just called Marcia for a followup and she reminded me of the numerous people who came up to her afterwards and commented on the parallels between her situation and theirs. Mind you, the details were obviously different BUT THESE PEOPLE’S SYSTEMS APPEARED TO MAKE THE NECESSARY PARALLELS. Thus they got major benefits just by following along. Painless but profound.

To me, it is undeniable that major benefits can be gained through this method. Not only do people tune into their own parallels during this process but we also must recognize the spiritual concept of Oneness at work here. We are connected. We are One–even though it seems otherwise.

Also, professional guidance can be critical for gaining the most benefit from this process and some customization after the fact is a good idea. I heartily recommend this. In addition, I recommend that professionals use this process in group work as I think you can dramatically accelerate healing with it. It’s also a perfect item for healing professionals to assign as homework between sessions. Just send your clients home with some of the filmed sessions from our training videos. They are loaded with sessions that are ideal for this. It is easy for them to follow along. They need only sit in their living rooms, identify an issue (specific event) and tap along with someone else’s issue on the video. Their systems will come up with their own parallels and allow Oneness to do its thing. Newcomers don’t even need experience with EFT to benefit. Just parrot the words and tap in the same places where people are tapping on the video.

It wouldn’t surprise me to learn that the best results will occur while groups of people perform this together–that’s a Oneness concept–but it is also clear to me that many people can achieve major benefits just by tapping alone in front of their television sets or computer screens.

More later.

Hugs, Gary

P.S.  Here’s a possible CAVEAT:  This technique may bring to the surface other issues that need addressing, perhaps ones that you may not even be aware of. This happens rarely but such possibilities can occur, so if you find yourself becoming more upset during the course of this exercise rather than the other way , know that you have an opportunity which may be very useful for you.   In this case STOP IMMEDIATELY and use this situation to go deeper (or get help from a qualified professional).  Unless you can identify a new aspect that is surfacing for you and address it directly, you might try tapping on, “Even though something else bothers me about this…” .. This can be a way of unearthing hidden aspects of a problem and clearing them systematically — a bonus of sorts

Happy Tapping!
—Nancy Southern

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